Some of you have heard my cry for a baby. It was an ache, to be honest, that stemmed so much from discontent and jealousy. I know for many people having a baby is a selfless act, and if God sees that we need a baby or babies in our family, I am more than willing to be a mommy. He has shown me though, at this time, I am to enjoy what He has given me. After 35 years of being completely single, I am married to my best friend, I have four sweet stepkids and a grandson, my darling sister is practically my daughter and my kitty cats are the most babyish & cuddly sweeties I could ask for.
Wow, am I blessed! I have a lot of problems with trust in many areas, but in the area of me having or adopting a baby, it is in the hands of my sweet Savior and I know without a doubt that nothing is impossible with Him. Resting right now in what I have..Praise Him!!
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Notes:
SuperBaby
1. Zone of moderate challenge (to be explained later)
2. Reaching potential =
environment, experiences & relationships
3. All babies are
individuals with preferences, thought and feelings
4. "Say what you see" -
A. tell child what i am gonna do B. Tell her what i expect C. Narrate
her experiences D. Prepare her for transitions E. Give choices - 2
acceptable choices when possible F. Acknowledge her desires
5. Parent = guide & coach
6. Communication : A. Verbal B. Nonverbal
C. Listening D. Modeling
7. A. Ask for help instead of demanding B. "as
soon as you.." instead of "we are not.."
8. Sing transition songs
9.Instead of "no": A. distract and redirect B. Offer choices C.
Validate desire without granting request
10. Toddler-ese : A. Short
phrases B. Lots of repetition C. Mirroring 1/3 of her emotions with tone
& gestures
11. Motivation: Internal versus External: A. Thank instead of Praise, B. Encourage (unconditional) instead of Praise (conditional), C. Focus on Process (promotes the purpose over the product, D. Use "You" statements describing what she did, E. Use "I" statement describing how I feel about what she did
12. Human Interaction is the essence of a baby's environment
13. Allow for silent and alone times interspersed with activity and togetherness.
14. Emotional Intelligence = A. Who am I?, B. What am I feeling? C. Identify & Manage Emotions in Relation to Others
15. Personality style is how she organizes her attributes, thoughts, feelings, attitudes, behaviors, and coping mechanisms
16. Learn personality traits by rating:
A. Activity Level, B. Rhythmicity of bodily functions, C. Approach or Withdrawal, D. Adaptability, E. Sensory threshold, F. Quality of Mood: ie. upbeat or serious G. Intensity of reactions, H. Distractability, I. Persistence & Attention Span
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1) grieving over not being able to get pregnant or safely sustain a
pregnancy 2) permission to not have to deal with babies through threes
until I am a) caring for children on a daily basis or have b) adopted a
child 3) turn anger & hurt towards my husband's vasectomy & his
not understanding into praying for our hearts to be intertwined: 1st, towards each other & 2nd, towards the plan God has for our family
4) trust Jesus with all the dilemmas and those trying to thwart the
dream of little ones in our lives..
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